If you go to see relationships sounds very simple but if you go to handle it then it is quite confusing and difficult.
Why confusing and difficult?
Whatever the relationship, it doesn’t matter anymore but to give the right to every relation is matter and important.
You know what, relationships are like petals of flowers. If you hold it very tightly, it will wither, if you keep it loose it will be blown away but if you hold it gently it lives with you throughout life.
We learn something through every relation that passes through our lives.
Some lessons are painful, some lessons are painless and some of them are priceless. But taking good and positive lessons from every single relationship is very important. These lessons teach us how to grow up.
Every year near about 40% of people suicide because of relationship problems. To stop this we have to understand five things.
Communication, Respect, Patience, Honesty, and Trust these five facts are the backbone of every relationship.
Communication is a two-way process which helps us to express our ideas and opinion.
At the same time, it helps us to understand the emotions and thought of others. In communication, listening as well as expressing, these both things matter.
But the biggest communication problem with all of us is we don’t listen to understand, we listen to an immediate reply which creates a misunderstanding.
Communication has a very simple formula-
Communication= Listening + Understanding + Reply
If we follow this formula, no misunderstanding remains and our relationship becomes perfect.
Communication opens up our minds and keeps relations healthy. Every single person has a lot of unique qualities, with the help of communication we can gain all these qualities.
Without Communication, there is no relationship.
Without respect, there is no love and understanding and there’s no reason to continue the relationship.
Respect has a very simple equation. Firstly you respect yourself and others, then definitely others will respect you.
In a relationship don’t assume anyone gives respect to everyone. If you want other people to talk with you in a good manner then same way you have to talk with that person.
Because respect is earned, not given.
At some point, the fight can be forgotten but disrespect becomes lifelong bad memory that definitely affects the relationship.
Thank you and Sorry these two words play an amazing game in case of respect. It works like medicine to handle the situation. Nothing wrong or low feeling to say these words. It increases your respect.
In a relationship, your money, social status, job are not impressive. How you treat others is impressive. Respect make your relation more strong.
Why patience is so important?
Because it makes us pay attention to. Every problem has a solution but to find the solution patience is important.
Today the whole world is running very fast and no one has time, everyone wants a quick solution to every problem.
No one likes patience but it is a solid thread of relationship. Whatever the problems we face in a relationship with the help of patience we can solve this.
Learning patience can be a difficult experience, but once start learning you will find life and relationships are easier.
Patience is not the ability to wait and feeling low but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting. It teaches us how to handle the situation, calmness, sanity.
Patience helps us to make better decisions and also helps us get our thoughts back in order, and our emotions under control.
Patience preserves our relationship.
Honesty is the strong base of the relationship. Truth is vitriolic but to chose the truth is important otherwise it will come out on its own.
Maybe for the present situation, your truth creates some difficulty in your relationship but in the future, it will not become a cheat because every cheat starts with a lie.
When you are always honest with someone, others are also trying to honest with you.
Lie with someone like crumping up a perfect piece of paper.
You can smooth it over but it’s never going to be the same again and it creates doubt in the mind.
And doubt is one kind of illness that comes from lying and leads to madness. And with doubt you never be happy.
So honesty is the best policy as well as a rich legacy which makes the relationship bond strong.
Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth-telling, truth-speaking, truth-loving, and truly living.
Trust is not something that you earn, it’s something that you give.
The most expensive thing in the world is trust. Trust is the soul of a relationship.
All relationships include fights, jealousy, arguments, faith, tears, disagreements, but a real relationship fights through all that with trust.
Trust starts from your honesty and it takes years to build, second to break, and forever to repair.
If you want to give a gift in any relationship give trust. Your trust increases the strength and clearness of your relationship.
If you have all these five facts in your relationship then love definitely be there.
While taking a decision, doing argument in a relationship, once put yourself in the others place and try to understand their thought, this will help you to handle the situation and relationship.
While giving your 100% in any relationship try to take others’ good principles and share your good thoughts with others make your bond perfect.
You can’t give up on someone just because the situations are not ideal.
Great relationships aren’t great because they no have any problems. They are great because both people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work.
At the last, I just want to say,
A healthy relationship is one where two independent people just make a deal that they will help make the other person the best version of themselves.