In this world, everyone wants to love, respect, attraction, sympathy, fame, money. There is no one who doesn’t like it. In our business, family, friends we want people who like me in all the cases.
We heard most of the time that “How you treat others is how you invite them to treat you”.
This sentence is right in most cases, but if you want the unbelievable result from day one then you need to understand first what “Dale Carnegie” said in his book “How to win friends and influence people” that how to talk with people so that they like you.
In this article, I will cover the 2’nd chapter of the book – “Six ways to make people like you”.
Most of the time we are listening to other people only to reply.
Show some interest in their discussion even if it is not part of your interest. By doing this they may feel better that you are genuinely taking interest in their story and in between without interrupting ask more about their interest.
Appreciate their work, hobbies, achievement, and other things and this is how they also like you because of the way you behave.
While talking with anyone always keep a smile on your face. It is true that, if you’re looking to get people to like you, having a pleasant expression on your face is a good place to start.
A smile shows your interest in other people while meeting with them every time. Try to avoid a fake smile because it will give a bad impression and you easily caught with a fake smile.
Remember that a person’s name is to that person is the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
It feels great to the person if you called him/her by their name. That’s why marketing emails put your name in subject line. To win people quickly and more likeable, you need to remember their name whenever you are meeting.
You have also experienced many calls from the marketing team or from other companies, they always called you by your name when you pick a call.
This one’s a classic Carnegie—people like it when you use their names.
Be a good listener
We know that many successful people are good listeners and that habit helped them to win friends and influence people.
We need to understand that everyone has some interest and people are interested in their own things like all of us. So you need to show your interest by listening to them and it makes communication a lot more effective.
Paying attention to what others are saying helps you to seem other people that you are respectful, courteous, communicative.
Asking questions to clarify what they say or further your understanding of their point means that you and whomever you’re listening to are more likely to be on the same page.
Talk in terms of the other person’s interest
People are more influence when we talk in terms of their interests like talking about their favorite movies, hobbies, games, etc.
Moreover, if you don’t know about their hobbies and interest and ask them, probably they’ll be happy to enlighten you, and happy to share their interest with a newcomer. And, just like that, the conversation’s rolling.
Also, if you are getting too bore then you can also find the common topics where both are interested and continue with it.
Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely
Whenever you felt other people that they are important to you, automatically our body can capture such vibes and create a memory and stored it in our brain.
So, whenever you meet next time with that people they are really happy again to communicate and discuss with you.
When I meet or message anyone, I genuinely feel that they are really important for me and this thing always helps me every time to continue the effective and healthy conversation, and due to which I connect with many great people.
So these are the things that I learned from “How to win friends and influence people”.
You can try these 6 ways and I am sure that from day one you will see the result!!